Top 5 Mistakes Couples Make In A Wedding Ceremony — And How to Avoid Them

Tips from a Byron Bay Marriage Celebrant Who’s Seen It All (and Then Some)

Your wedding ceremony is the heart of your day — the moment everything becomes official, real, and emotionally unforgettable.

As a Byron Bay marriage celebrant with over 15 years of experience, I’ve seen hundreds of ceremonies… and while every one of them is unique, there are a few common missteps couples tend to make.

Here are the top 5 mistakes couples make in a wedding ceremony — and how to avoid them so you can focus on what really matters: being present, connected, and in love.


1. Not Knowing What Actually Happens During the Ceremony

The Mistake:

Some couples arrive at their wedding day without fully understanding the flow of a ceremony. That can lead to confusion, awkward moments, or even missed cues.

How to Avoid It:

When you work with me, I walk you through every part of the ceremony, from entrances to “I do” to the signing and celebration. We’ll even have a run-through or video chat to make sure you’re feeling calm and confident.


2. Winging Their Wedding Vows Without Preparation

The Mistake:

Thinking “we’ll just speak from the heart on the day” sounds romantic — until nerves kick in, and you’re blanking in front of your family and friends.

How to Avoid It:

I provide each couple with a vow-writing support guide that includes examples, prompts, and structure ideas. Plus, I’m always happy to review your vows and offer gentle feedback on flow, tone, and length — so they feel real but also ready.


3. Choosing a Ceremony Location Without Considering Sound or Shade

The Mistake:

Picking a stunning location is one thing — but overlooking practical elements like wind, sun, or sound issues can impact your guests’ experience.

How to Avoid It:

As your celebrant, I’ve worked across the Byron Bay, Tweed Coast, and Gold Coast regions and can recommend ceremony spots with the best balance of beauty and functionality. I also bring a professional PA system (Bose S1 Pro with wireless mic), so your guests can actually hear your vows — even outdoors.


4. Not Rehearsing (or Including the Right People in the Rehearsal)

The Mistake:

Skipping the ceremony run-through can leave key people unsure of where to stand, when to walk, or what they’re doing — especially if you’re including readings, rituals, or family involvement.

How to Avoid It:

If your venue allows, I offer in-person rehearsals (or video run-throughs) to make sure everyone involved is prepared. We’ll walk through the movements, timing, and transitions so your ceremony feels seamless.


5. Letting Nerves Take Over the Moment

The Mistake:

You’re standing in front of everyone you love… and suddenly you forget to breathe, smile, or look at your partner.

How to Avoid It:

It’s completely normal to feel emotional or a little overwhelmed — but I bring a calm, grounded energy to every ceremony. I’ll gently guide you through the nerves, remind you to take a breath, and help you stay present in the moment.

After all, this is your moment — and it should feel like pure magic.


💡 Final Thought: The Best Ceremonies Are Real, Relaxed, and Authentically You

Mistakes happen — but with the right support and preparation, you can avoid the big ones and stay focused on what matters: your connection, your story, and this life-changing moment. Let’s avoid the Top 5 Mistakes couples make in a Wedding Ceremony.

As a trusted Byron Bay marriage celebrant, I’m here to help make the ceremony feel effortless, fun, and full of heart — from the planning to the “I do” and everything in between.


💍 Planning Your Ceremony in Byron Bay, Tweed Coast, or Beyond?

Let’s make it unforgettable — for all the right reasons.

Get in touch to check availability and see if we’re the right fit.

Top 5 mistakes couples make in a wedding ceremony - and how to avoid them. Benjamin Carlyle Celebrant

Kate and Heath had definitely read my top 5 mistakes couples make in a wedding ceremony and totally avoided any wedding fails!! Their Elope Byron Micro Wedding was amazing!