Wedding Vows, the mention of those 2 words has most couples sweating bullets. You’re about to sum up everything you feel for your partner in just a few minutes. No pressure, right? Don’t stress — this is your moment to be real, heartfelt, and totally you.
How to Write Your Wedding Vows (Without Freaking Out)
Where to Start?
Most people feel overwhelmed. The key? Keep it authentic. Forget the generic vow templates — speak in your own voice.
Your Wedding Vows, Your Style
There’s no one-size-fits-all. Your vows can be:
- A heartfelt love letter
- Light, funny, or poetic
- A list of promises (serious or silly)
Just speak from the heart. That’s what matters.
Length & Balance
Keep it short enough to get through (without sobbing), but long enough to say what counts. I can help balance your vows if you’re worried they don’t match in tone.
Please Don’t Google Your Wedding Vows
Use your own words — talk about real moments, quirks, and what makes your love unique. That’s what makes wedding vows memorable.
The Legal Bit (Australia)
You must include the legal vow line:
“I call upon the persons here present…”
Don’t worry — I’ll provide a card on the day. No need to memorise or repeat after me (unless you want to).
Surprise or Share?
You can write your wedding vows together or keep them a surprise — whatever suits your vibe. I’ll support you either way.
Natarsha’s Vows to Steve from their Fig Tree Restaurant Wedding:
Steve you’re my best friend, my love and my life partner. As we stand here today my heart is overflowing with love for you.
When someone is willingly able to withstand my neurotic ways, such as my obsession with indoor plants, the way I talk to my bunnies and my weird pet peeves, you know that person’s a keeper. You know me better than anyone in this world and somehow you manage to love me.
You are without doubt the best blessing that life has ever given me and I am so grateful to wake up next to you everyday!
You are the sweetest, most kind hearted, golf obsessed human I have ever met. And while I can’t promise that I will succeed to pick you up from golf every Friday, I promise you this-
I promise to give you the best of myself, love you endlessly and give you perfect trust. You’re consistently the best part of my day, and I promise to value our relationship above all else.
I vow to you my loyalty, my everlasting devotion and my unconditional love for a life time.
I promise to respect you as your own person, encourage your passions and help you live your best life.
You are the love of my life Steve and I promise to let you know that every day. I Vow to make you feel as in love as you today, every day.
Ashley’s Vows to Cara in their Summergove Estate Wedding
Our dapper groom couldn’t do romance but utilised his Salesman Skills to get his feelings out onto paper. They matched so well with Cara’s more romantic Vows:
Cara as per every birthday card I write to you, you know this going to be poorly worded and not very romantic. So in short, your are awesome.
Instead of promises, today I am going to give you a list of goals I want to achieve in our life together, as you know how much I love a KPI.
- Goal 1 – I will make you laugh everyday.
- Goal 2 – I will get more accurate with my long range shots into the washing basket.
- Goal 3 – I will be less needy and demand less attention, when you have had a hard day at work.
- Goal 4 – I will eat quieter and even slower.
- Goal 5 – I will travel with you and try new experiences, wherever you wish to go.
- Goal 6 – I will buy you a new puppy.
- Goal 7 – I will feed you when you are hangry.
- Goal 8 – I will continuously try to be the best possible husband I can be and ensure I can make you as happy as you make me.
You are my best friend and I cannot wait to be able to call you my wife, for the rest of our lives.
Final Advice on your Wedding Vows:
Don’t overthink it. Be honest, be real, and speak your truth. That’s what makes wedding vows unforgettable.
As your Marriage Celebrant, I’m here to support and guide you.
